Do we truly understand what motivates our significant other?
We are all individuals with our own unique set of traits, whims and quirks, intuition and psychic abilities, intricacies of personality and character which make us instantly recognizable in a crowd. Everything that we do, that we wish for, that we are motivated by, and that we aspire to, is our own and comes from a place of fire that burns within us. It is our core and a blueprint for our belief system. Still, many of these traits belong to larger archetypes – to strong spiritual forces that are bigger than any single individual and that, in themselves, contain the distilled essence of the energy they represent. One such defining aspect is that of gender. Often times, it is the defining aspect of our personality, determining which way we are do go – both due to natural inclinations but also due to the way we are socialized as we grow up as either boys or girls. This can be both good and bad.
Depending on our upbringing – the social, economic, cultural and religious context of it – we are taught that men ought to behave one way while women should act like a mother. Often, these norms are presented in forms of opposites, a relationship of two divergent energies that are quite frequently depicted as if in an open conflict. Men are masters of logic while women possess intuition. Men are strong while women are delicate. His place is out having a great career – be it as a banker, an engineer or even a life-coach – while she should remain constantly in the house and take care of the family. This belief system has become so rigid over the course of millennia it has been in place that it may now require work of many people and a psychic awakening of a multitude for it to be transformed into something more balanced and more functional. This is particularly true of male-female relationships, the motivation each brings into the equation, and ultimately the way couples are formed – to last or not to last.
So where does the core of the problem lie? How can we use both are rational mind and our intuition to fix this broken belief system? Where do we even start? A life-coach or a psychic can indeed help but even before we consult one, we ought to address some issues ourselves and find at least some semblance of a balance within our soul. First and foremost, while exploring our motivation, we need to accept the fact that we are not just victims of a broken belief system but that we – in some small part, tiny as it may be – are also the contributors to it. A minuscule part of the equation lies in our own hands but, with the right amount of leverage and personal effort, we may just be able to tip the scale in our own favour and finally find the right way – right for us, for our own individual needs and wants, at least – to approach the situation and find our twin flame – our soulmate.
For this to happen, it may be good to accept that men and women are often motivated by different things in life and that they view happiness and familiar bliss using a slightly different lenses. The male partner often puts emphasis on the rational and the functional while the female, being in tune with her intuitive or even psychic being, actively seeks emotional balance and harmony. She is excellent at expressing her feelings while he may appear withdrawn, even if his heart is as full of love as hers. Still, the old belief system still reigns in many of the finer details. More often than not, she will be the one to expect him to ask her out on a date instead of making the first move. Once the romance does actually start, all she is likely to focus on is tying of the knot – all while his mind is still set on nothing but pure physical pleasure. Moving at different paces and being focused on different goals at different times can prove detrimental. In such circumstances, it can often appear that the two sides have envisioned completely different sort of arrangements but this is ultimately not true. Their aim is one and the same – mutual happiness and life together forever – but this wish is as if spoken in a different language. It is a minor psychological glitch brought about by years of wrong conditioning on both sides that has ultimately lead to the saying that women are from Venus and men are from Mars.
Still, these two planets are very much a part of the same Solar system and, in our day and age, could as well find a way to communicate – this time not through the exquisite long-distance systems devised by NASA but through empathy, intuition, compassion, understanding and even a hint of psychic energy. From setting realistic expectations, achieving sexual confidence, understanding what makes each other tick, what is the core motivator behind what we think and do, to the right way to consult a life-coach in order to set your belief system in its optimal position – all of these steps that we ought to take are neither that difficult nor impossible to make. Women can often change the situation for the better – getting rid of the rigid constraints of the old belief system – by being ever so slightly more willing to experiment in the bedroom. There is nothing that moves a man like fulfilling a harmless little fantasy he’s been wanting to try for ages. A bit of role playing – even indulging in the role of the dominatrix – can tip the scale from a good enough romance to a pool of passion. Being open to experimentation and new ideas thus becomes key to success. Be frank about what you yourself enjoy and drop some obvious hints whenever you are ready to spice things up. He will appreciate it. A lot.
Ultimately, we are the ones that will reap the rewards of a new way of thinking and of a new way of approaching our (potential) mate. Regardless of whether we are in a relationship or just looking out for love – a thorough and lasting solution is perhaps just around the corner. The man and the woman are, after all, divinely compatible and there is no need for advanced psychic skills to navigate this sea of passion. The best thing you can do is listen and be receptive of suggestions while at the same time being clear about your own wants and needs. It takes time, it is more than obviously a work in progress – sometimes it may not be easy but, on the long run, it can pay off a thousand-fold – sexually, emotionally and spiritually. This is where the gentle guidance and intuition of a life-coach can be of great benefit to both parties involved but do bear in mind that all success will be a product of your own work and your own commitment to creating the love life and harmony that your soul so deeply needs.
Holistic Therapist, Intuitive Counselor, Psychic Reader in Margate, Coral Springs, FL 33063
561 252 3707 – IntuitiveBea@gmail.com
Life-coach, Certified Theta-Healing® Practitioner, Certified & Licensed Counselor